What is positive parenting – is it ‘soft’?
If you haven’t asked this question, others around you probably will.
Contrary to popular belief, positive parenting does not involve watching Harry hit his brother and saying, “Ah, boys will be boys.”
We’re not going to let our children throw chairs, run into the road, or hide great grandma’s false teeth.
This is about teaching our children (and us) to be assertive.
Not aggressive. And not a pushover either.
She can’t insult her Dad, demand that everyone at the table drinks from the red cup, or pull visitors’ pants down.
This style of parenting teaches our kids to respect other people’s bodies, choices and feelings.
And we need to do the same for them.
Tools to take away power struggles
Here you’ll find tools that create win-wins.
Techniques that don’t rely on physical force, bribery or screaming-it-out in a corner to get results (and I don’t judge you if you’ve used any of these – they were my previous go-tos).
You’ll find new ways to get your child to want to do something (whether you’re in the room or not).
We’ll use games, stories and the power of play. Because this is how our children learn best.
And when our children mess up, the focus is on responsibility, repair and solutions for next time.
And quite honestly, this often involves more than sitting in Time Out for a few minutes.
We’ll set clear boundaries, enforced with compassion and assertiveness
And when we mess up, well, we’ll learn to forgive ourselves, which quite frankly, most of us weren’t taught how to do (we learned to feel guilty and beat ourselves up – that takes a bit of undoing!).
And we’ll be getting at the root cause of problems
Sometimes it really helps to understand what’s going on in our children’s brains and bodies (and our own). We’ll look at proven techniques to change our children’s body chemistry – and our own – so that we can have a happier home.
We’ll also look at lots of prevention techniques, to nip behavioural issues in the bud before they even occur.
From battleground to playground
Prepare to don space helmets, ride dragons to school and throw socks at your family members (okay, maybe not your mother-in-law!).
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- use play, games and stories to tackle the hardest parts of your day, from getting dressed to dealing with anxiety
- prevent and manage meltdowns and aggression, kindly and without ‘losing it’
- help your child to listen and communicate
- build self-esteem in ways not often talked about
- find a little more self-love and time for you
It’s been such a great journey working with Emma. She’s been so helpful and supportive in helping me to not only figure out my goals, but also how to reach them and to bring me greater happiness. She’s truly helped me to figure out what I needed to be happy.